Invitations, and boundaries.
Two kinds of agreements hold every room. Knowing which is which is most of what a new person needs.
The practices that shape the room: confidentiality, witnessing, receiving fully, speaking cleanly, owning your experience, repairing directly. They are invitations, not rules — nobody polices them, and anyone can gently name one in the moment. Falling short of one is normal; reaching for them is the practice.
The smallest set of agreements, and the most firmly held. Four behaviors are not tolerated: dehumanization, engaging without consent, breach of confidentiality, and gossip. When they appear they are addressed directly — beginning with a conversation, never an ambush. And nothing here is mandatory: anyone can refuse, pause, or step out of any process without explaining why.
One way to hold it: the values are invitations we practice, the Code is the boundary we hold. You’ll sign both at the end of this flow.
Read them both, properly — they are what you’ll sign. Together they take about three minutes.
Invitations · two minutes The Container Values → Twelve practices that shape every room. Boundaries · one minute The Code of Conduct → Four firm agreements — the ones you sign onto being held to.Everyone who signs up for an event agrees to the Code, member or not. Participation is contingent on it, not just entry. Adults 18 and over. If you have resistance, bring it — and if you explore it and still don’t want to agree, you’re welcome at in-person events. The WhatsApp community is for people who have agreed.