The Queen’s Code Deep Dive #3: Redefining Love, Power, & Partnership.

This week’s book club dove deep into The Queen’s Code (pages 173 to 234), unraveling the subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) dynamics that shape how we love, lead, and communicate with one another.

We began by revisiting the distinction between objectification and admiration—how a simple shift in language can affirm someone's divinity rather than diminish their humanity. One member’s story of complimenting a woman’s “divine beauty” led to a powerful realization: what we perceive as surface-level attraction often hides deeper longings—like connection, celebration, or victory.

From there, we explored receiving—and why so many of us struggle with it. Whether it’s help, love, or even compliments, we’re often more comfortable giving than receiving. But refusing to receive not only limits our growth—it also robs others of the chance to love us fully.

The discussion cracked open deeper awareness of masculine and feminine consciousness—not as gender roles, but as energies we all hold. The feminine notices everything. The masculine focuses deeply. When we meet these energies with curiosity instead of criticism, we co-create safety and harmony.

We also explored the idea of “playing for points”—not in a transactional way, but through small, intentional acts that build love over time. Wiping down the counters, showing up as a safe space, cooking with care—these aren’t chores, they’re contributions to the health of the relationship.

Finally, as the women joined the group, the conversation turned tender and true. We spoke of the fear of expressing needs, the beauty of being truly seen, and the power of co-creating joy through clarity, appreciation, and presence. The invitation? Move from transaction to transformation.

“Points aren’t currency—they’re energy. And when we both give and receive authentically, our relationships grow in richness and power.”

Now we invite you into the conversation.

Reflect on the teachings from The Queen’s Code and choose one question below to answer in the comments:

What is one way you tend to resist receiving—and what’s underneath that pattern?

How can you communicate a need in a way that honors both you and the other person?

What’s one small act someone has done for you that made you feel profoundly seen or safe?

📝 Pick your question, name it in your comment, and share your truth. We’d love to hear from you.

Much Love, 
Mantras